Every family is different, and every husband or wife has his or her reasons for seeking sole physical child custody during Colorado divorce proceedings.
Perhaps you're worried about your soon-to-be ex's drinking problem, and you don't want your kids to be exposed to living with an alcoholic. Maybe the other parent of your children has a history of violence or abuse. Or, perhaps you and the other parent live far away from each other, making shared physical custody unworkable.
Regardless of why you're seeking sole physical custody, you may want to consider both the pros and cons of this custody arrangement before you pursue it in court.
The benefits of sole physical custody
When a court awards you sole physical custody of your children, you'll benefit in a number of ways. Here are some of the usual "pros" of having sole physical custody:
- Your children will get to live in one home, which is usually the one that they were living in before the divorce.
- Your children will be able to maintain a similar schedule and routine as they had before the separation of their parents.
- It's easier to create a parenting plan and visitation schedule that everyone can follow.
- The noncustodial parent will receive visitation days with his or her children.
- It's easier for parents who live a long distance from each other, or for parents with busy work schedules since fewer custody exchanges will be necessary.
The negatives of sole physical custody
No child custody arrangement is perfect. Here are some of the setbacks or "cons" associated with having sole physical custody:
- The children won't get to feel like they live with both parents.
- The noncustodial parent will not be able to spend as much time with his or her children, and the relationship between that spouse and the children may not be as strong.
- If the other parent does not agree with sole physical custody, he or she might fight the matter in court, which could be a costly and lengthy process.
- The parent with sole custody will be solely responsible for caring for the children for the majority of the time, and this can mean a lot of work and a busy schedule for that parent.
Is sole physical custody right for you and your family?
Only you can decide if seeking sole physical custody is right for you and your family. However, by considering the pros and cons of sole physical child custody -- as well as your legal right to receive such custody -- you can make the most appropriate choice to suit your and your family's needs.