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How to handle child custody negotiations with a narcissist

When a Colorado marriage goes south, it is not uncommon for spouses to begin accusing one another of various personality deficiencies. Every forgotten anniversary or failure to keep the garage clean can become a symptom of an imagined larger problem. In some cases, however, there are true personality disorders at play, which can make divorce and child custody negotiations nothing short of a nightmare. The following tips can help spouses move through this process as swiftly and with as little turmoil as possible.

A narcissist, as recognized by the mental health community, is an individual who has an artificially inflated sense of self-worth, and who is consumed with self-focus and admiration. He or she often lacks and care or concern for others, and views other people as little more than a necessary means to an end. First and foremost, it is absolutely critical to avoid engaging with the soon-to-be-ex unless it is necessary. Narcissists thrive off of the reaction they are able to elicit from others. Remove that reaction, and he or she will most likely move on to those people who will engage in the narcissist's chosen behaviors.

Could collaboration ease property division chaos?

When a Colorado couple is moving through a divorce, the division of marital wealth is often a top priority. Property division is also a prime area of contention among many couples, and can be the topic that brings otherwise amicable negotiations to a halt. One state has taken a novel approach to easing strife between divorcing spouses, in the form of a law that requires parties to attempt collaboration prior to taking their case before a court of law.

The Collaborative Law Process Act took effect in early July, and compels couples who divorce in that state to attempt to reach an agreement on as many issues as possible before they escalate the matter. Those who support the new law hope that by forcing couples to at least attempt a collaborative process, more families can resolve their divorce differences on their own. That could lead to lower legal bills, swifter divorces and less strife between parents who will have to move on to co-parent together.

Prenuptial agreements, estate planning and high-asset divorce

For Colorado families who have been successful in amassing a high degree of wealth, protecting those assets from loss is often a top priority. That includes managing money in a way that reduces tax obligations while promoting steady growth, and protecting against loss due to litigation. When it comes to legal losses, few things can be more damaging to one's bottom line than a high\-asset divorce. That is why many families take an aggressive stance toward making sure that inherited wealth stays where it was intended.

One way to accomplish that goal is to include a prenuptial agreement as a condition of an inheritance. While that may seem like a controlling and invasive move, it is easy to understand how parents and grandparents may view the matter. Statistics show that as many as half of marriages end up in divorce. Absent a prenuptial agreement or other careful financial planning options, close to half of an individual's wealth can be lost during a divorce. That is simply an unacceptable outcome to many families.

5 tips for handling anger during a divorce

It's not pretty, but it's real: Divorce makes you angry. You're splitting up, and it's not what you wanted. It's not where you thought your life was going.

Perhaps it's not just about you. You also have the kids to think about. You feel like your spouse has wronged you and the children, and you're angry about it.

During property division, be sure to account for all assets

The timeframe between deciding to end a marriage and the point at which that decision is made legally binding can be hectic. There are a great many tasks that must be accomplished during this relatively short period of time, and even the most well-organized Colorado spouses can feel overwhelmed. Unfortunately, there are also a great many mistakes that can be made during this timeframe, many of which can be costly. Forgetting about less common assets is a prime example and is a property division issue that deserves attention.

For example, consider the matter of employment benefits. Few spouses will forget about a pension or stock options that are associated with their current job, but what about benefits that were earned years or even decades ago? It is not uncommon for an old pension plan, retirement account or other benefits to be forgotten over time. Those assets, however, can really add up.

Father of tennis star daughters faces high-asset divorce

Ask any Colorado tennis fan to name a few players who have made historic strides in the sport, and the names Venus and Serena Williams will almost certainly be uttered. Many people who follow the sport are aware that their father, Richard Williams, was instrumental in shaping the early training and competitive nature that Venus and Serena have used to propel themselves into the highest levels of professional tennis. He is now facing a high\-asset divorce with his second wife, and the matter has made headlines as the two parties begin the legal process of ending their union.

Richard Williams married Lakeisha Williams in 2010, and the couple welcomed a child in 2012. In court documents, Williams alleges that his wife abandoned the family, and that she has serious issues with alcohol addiction. He also claims that she has improperly removed money from their joint bank account, and also from an account belonging to her husband. She is also accused of taking her husband's firearms without his permission, and is alleged to have forged multiple documents to transfer assets from her husband's name to her own.

Child custody case centers on medical marijuana use

A couple is faced with losing their parental rights in a case that has garnered media attention in Colorado and across the nation. The couple have five children, all of whom were removed from their parents' care by the Department of Children and Families in their state of residence. According to the parents, that child custody move was done to prevent the family from moving to Colorado, where the parents would have access to legal medical marijuana.

The father of five served in the Navy and was active during the Gulf War. He asserts that he has used medical marijuana to treat PTSD related to those years of service. He and his wife have been fighting for the return of their children for more than two years and are currently facing a hearing in which the state is seeking to terminate their parental rights.

Handling child custody appropriately benefits children

When a Colorado family is preparing to divorce, the most pressing priority is usually how the change in family structure will impact their children. It is impossible to deny that divorce can be disruptive in the life of a child, but recent research suggests that the manner in which parents handle divorce and child custody matters is more important than the fact of the divorce itself. These findings underscore the importance of working together to reach a settlement with which everyone can live.

One study found that in families with high level of tension, children often preferred that their parents divorce rather than continue living in the same home. It may be that even with all the challenges associated with living in a single-parent household, that outcome is preferable to being exposed to chronic fighting and ill temper between parents. Once a separation or divorce has taken place, both parents are able to relax and settle into new lives of their own choosing, rather than continuing to struggle with one another in the presence of their children.

Track expenses for optimal property division outcome

When addressing their financial needs, one of the most powerful steps that a Colorado resident can take is gaining a comprehensive understanding of his or her expenses. This is true during all phases of life, but never more so than during the course of a divorce. In order to achieve a favorable property division outcome, it is absolutely necessary to have a firm grasp on the full range of current and projected expenses.

The best place to begin is by making a list of all current expenses. This includes the more obvious costs associated with housing, food, utilities and fuel. However, be sure to include expenses that occur on a less frequent basis, including insurance premiums, auto maintenance and expenses related to raising a family.

Will you have to pay your ex-husband alimony?

After more than ten years of marriage, you and your husband have decided to part ways. You know the divorce will be complex. While your husband spent his time trying to fulfill his dreams of becoming an artist, you built your own interior design firm from the ground up. Many years of success have allowed you to purchase a second home, investment property, and build a strong stock portfolio. Theoretically, you could retire now and live very comfortably. However, you love the work too much to walk away from it. In addition, your divorce settlement may include handing over a significant portion of your assets to your husband.

You have mentally prepared yourself for the various outcomes of a divorced agreement. Fortunately, your design firm is protected due to its entity type and shareholder agreements, but the rest of your assets are exposed. Furthermore, you recently realized that you may have to pay your future ex-husband alimony. Colorado spousal support, or maintenance, can be very complex. A Denver area divorce attorney can examine your circumstances and help you reach a settlement that is fair to both you and your ex-spouse. Read further to learn more about alimony basics.


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